3 Ways to Handle Disappointment

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3 Ways to Handle Disappointment

Have you ever heard the expression…

“Expectations are the root of all disappointment”?

Now that’s a statement that deserves a closer look.

Just what are they?

Expectations are sneaky little creatures.

They lurk in every corner and often go about their business totally unnoticed.

When exposed, we see they are our desired outcomes for how things should be.

No more shoulding

How life should be, how the people in our lives should behave, you know, like texting us back right away. 😉

And here’s the important part…

They prevent us from experiencing reality as it actually is.

And that’s why we can get disappointed, frustrated, or even angry.

3 Simple Steps

The good news is, you don’t have to live at the mercy of your expectations.

You can’t get rid of them completely, but you can change your relationship to them with a few simple steps.

Step 1:  Shine the light of awareness

One of the greatest benefits of meditation is you can become more aware of what’s going on inside your head.

You learn to watch yourself.

This allows you to be less reactive with your emotions.

So when someone does something unexpected and it disappoints you, ask yourself what you were expecting them to do.

You’ll probably find awareness of your expectations will quickly loosen their grip on you.

Step 2:  Acceptance

One of the biggest challenges we face in life is learning to accept people for who they truly are.

Your expectations can’t control or change the way people think, feel, or act.

Ever.

You can hope people will behave a certain way, but ultimately, how they act is up to them.

Remembering this, and accepting people as they are, will allow you to relax into the present and approach life with a sense of curiosity instead.

Step 3:  Affirmation

It’s important to have these insights, but it’s also important to have a practical step.

So with that in mind, I invite you to repeat this simple affirmation in the morning:

“I will deal with the world as it is, not as how I want it to be.”

This will put you in the right mindset to live in the now and take people as they come.

Relationship Harmony

Lowering your expectations for the people in your life can help to create more harmony in your relationships.

Have a watch of this short video I made to learn about the link between meditation and improved relationships.